Welcome to Head and Heart Work — therapy and counseling for adults
Whatever is troubling you, you can rely on me to listen carefully, to warmly empathise with you, to understand you on your terms, to believe in you. You are not ‘treated’ as a ‘patient’ with a ‘disorder’ — never judged.
The sessions of individual or couples therapy / counseling are a peaceful, respectful, safe holding environment where you feel free to express what is bothering you. You are unconditionally accepted as a unique, special person and guided through a learning, healing and growing process that is attuned to your needs.
You are encouraged to focus on the core problem, to set clear, realistic goals, and to pursue them effectively. The ultimate aim? To realise your true potential by transforming the core problem into a key asset you can use to your own benefit. Because the integrative approach to therapy / counseling focuses on what is essential in each step, it’s short-term: in nearly all cases, 4 to 12 sessions are sufficient to achieve a breakthrough.
Individual therapy: the integrative way
Learn, heal and grow the integrative way: explore your ‘inner world’ of thoughts, feelings and sensations; bring conflicting parts into harmony to transform storm into calm.
What’s holding you back? Usually, it’s a deep-seated negative self-image, a self-sabotaging part and/or an undermining sadness, fear, loneliness, emptiness, hopelessness or powerlessness. You can imagine your goal – how you want to think, feel and behave – so how come you’re not living it? How did you lose sight of your true self, your core qualities? We explore how your core problem grew in your past and family background, revealing old pain and self-limiting ‘scripts’.
We map out goals and strategies for change. I guide you; you do the head and heart work. On the way, you discover inner resources and new options. Each step involves behaviour, thought, emotion and related body sensation. Imagination powers change. That’s the integrative way.
Relationship therapy: the integrative way
When love has turned to war, the integrative way is to explore two key questions. What core qualities drew the two of you together when you were still in love with each other? And what dysfunctional patterns now threaten to tear you apart?
During conflicts and freeze-outs you lose the loving connection and trigger unsafe feelings in each other. Visible on the surface may be irritation, annoyance, anger or even rage. But recent research on how couples interact shows that when the love bond is threatened, powerful underlying feelings such as fear, shame, helplessness and powerlessness get triggered.
Partners in successful relationships don’t ‘act out’ their hard feelings on each other but communicate about their softer, vulnerable feelings and unmet attachment needs. Integrative relationship therapy enables both of you to safely share your vulnerabilities and unmet needs. You transform your crisis into a golden opportunity to forge a new, realistic love alliance.
Your biggest problem is your greatest opportunity
Integrative therapy and counseling brings about fundamental, lasting change on problems ranging from trauma (emotional damage) during childhood, adolescence or adulthood to tough decisions and challenges in the here and now, from inner conflicts to relationship and ‘mid-life’ crises, from coping with anxiety, depression and grief to developing personal qualities, performance and spirituality. The problems page lists complaints that previous clients have transformed into opportunities and strengths.
About Rob Stuart
I’m a warm-hearted Englishman with a lively sense of humour and abundant life experience. I’m empathic and compassionate towards my clients, and strongly concerned about their mental, emotional and spiritual welfare. Having been in individual and relationship therapy myself, I know how awful it is to be troubled, demoralised and desperate, unable to see a way out or solution. To me, clients are not victims who need help but survivors asking for guidance in finding and mobilising the internal and external resources they need in order to help themselves.
How I work
At Head and Heart Work, my private practice established in Utrecht in January 2009, I have accumulated thousands of hours experience working with a wide variety of clients and problems. My prime aim is to guide them towards achieving their own personal goals using their own resources and self-healing power.
My approach combines the integrative methods and models taught at the Dutch Academy for Psychotherapy in Amsterdam, where I received extensive, in-depth professional training, with my own insights into human change processes. Those insights are drawn from my own life and therapy experience, exchanges with various kinds of therapists, counselors and other remarkable men and women, and extensive reading on psychology, psychotherapy and personal development.
I don’t believe in a professionally detached, clinical attitude or one-size-fits-all ‘standard treatment protocols’. You are assured of warm, personal attention, ample time and space to discuss your problems and consider options, and an innovative, flexible, in-depth approach tailored to your specific needs. My motto? For each unique and special client, unique and special therapy / counseling.
When individual clients or couples complete a course of Head and Heart Work therapy and/or counseling, they are asked to give a short testimonial describing their experience of the learning, healing and growing process and how it has benefited them. For me, there is nothing more moving and rewarding than reading their words.
The most powerful weapons in the therapeutic arsenal are words that change clients’ minds and move their hearts. Quotes from the famous exert a tremendous inspirational and transformational force that enables us to bring out the best in ourselves.
“There is indeed power in words. Most of the lasting change that has been forged in the history of this world came not from a wielding of the swift and bloody sword of battle but from the shaping scalpel of ideas, and what are ideas without the words to deliver them?”
— Mark Dunn, Under the Harrow